When parents of special needs children, like myself, attend “autism friendly” events and find they are lacking extra safety precautions and trained staff, concerns and worries often multiply exponentially. In stark contrast, attending specifically designed events or those with additional measures in place provides a sense of relief and acceptance. 

This article delves into the reasons behind these emotions, exploring the societal expectations placed on special needs children, the need to "tone down" their differences, and the significance of creating inclusive environments for all.

1. Navigating Society's Expectations:

Parents of special needs children often face the pressure of conforming to societal norms that are geared toward neurotypical children. In mainstream events where extra precautions or specialised staff are lacking, they might worry that their child's unique needs will cause inconvenience or disrupt others' experiences. This concern stems from the perception that their children's behaviours and noises are somehow unwelcome or unacceptable.

2. The Need for Inclusive Environments:

Special needs events provide a haven of understanding and acceptance, where parents can relax, knowing their children will be embraced as they are. In these spaces, there is no need to "tone down" or suppress the unique qualities of special needs children. The environment is thoughtfully designed to accommodate their needs, fostering an inclusive atmosphere where social interferences are not seen as disruptions but rather as natural expressions.

3. Breaking Stereotypes:

One of the main reasons parents feel compelled to worry about their special needs children's impact on others is due to societal stereotypes and misconceptions. These stereotypes often associate special needs with inconvenience, disruption, and a lack of control. However, it is crucial to challenge these assumptions and foster a more inclusive mindset that recognises the inherent value of every individual, regardless of their abilities.

4. Advocating for Accessibility and Understanding:

Creating non-special needs-friendly events with bare minimal safety precautions perpetuates a cycle of exclusion and reinforces the notion that individuals with special needs are somehow separate or burdensome. By advocating for accessibility and understanding, we can work toward eradicating these barriers and ensure that all events are inclusive and accommodating to everyone, regardless of their abilities.

5. Educating Event Organisers and Staff:

Event organisers and staff play a vital role in making events welcoming and safe for individuals with special needs. Training programs that raise awareness about different disabilities and provide practical strategies for inclusive event planning can significantly enhance the experience for both special needs individuals and their families. By equipping event staff with the knowledge and tools necessary to support diverse needs, we can cultivate an inclusive culture across all events.

Conclusion:

The concerns and worries experienced by parents of special needs children at non-special needs-friendly events highlight the need for greater inclusivity and understanding in our society. By acknowledging and addressing the challenges faced by these families, we can create environments that embrace diversity and accommodate the needs of all individuals. It is our collective responsibility to advocate for change, foster empathy, and ensure that every event becomes an opportunity for inclusivity and celebration of our differences.